Showing posts with label focus on the family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label focus on the family. Show all posts

11 April 2012

defining boundaries


ok this post might get a little heavy, but i need some honest commenters out there.
there is something going on out in the world and it's freaking me out.
i have to get this all out, so here we go.

handsome and i have had multiple discussions about how distracted we each get with internet usage, social networks, and gadgets.
do you notice that too?
i have been IGing like nobody's business and blake loves himself some twitter and facebook.
in fact, we have been so into our www. lives that we have been neglecting the real lives we have in our home.
when we are home together after nikson is asleep you will most definitely find us using up our data plan.
don't read this wrong, no one is committing adultery here, but we are definitely not in the right.
i was pointing out the mote in blake's eye last night, while he so kindly reminded me of the beam in my own eye if you know what i mean.
we have a problem.
it isn't too serious, but i suppose my fear is that when things are jiving at home the outlet of the world wide web of disaster with work it's way into our hearts and tangle us up in some serious danger.
there are thousands of articles out there suggesting the danger that comes from not focusing on the family.
some powerful articles are here, here, and here.
the last article is freaky.
i know it is not ALL bad.
i have met some great people out there that i would have never met had it not been for the blog and the connections people have.
i love pinterest because it motivates me to create and i feel like creating is a basic instinct of humanity.
i also realize that there is massive good that can come from buoying each other up and knowing you are not alone.
but sometimes too much of a good thing can get consuming and overwhelming.
you can get caught up in your our self. your own needs and wants.
and its not always about you.

it is really hard to hear that you are doing something wrong.
it's even more hard to think that your actions could be damaging a relationship that matters.

so we went to sleep last night with a resolve to create some personal boundaries.
my prayers have been a little more intense as i try to work out this funky thing going on in my life.
the internet is a great source of learning and the ability to communicate with people all over the world is amazing.
we have some great resources through the church we belong to that i frequently go to for some inspiration.
i have to figure out what is most important.
you know it is bad when i would rather check out my instagram feed instead of talk to my husband about his day.
RED FLAG PEOPLE.
red flag.

so what are your thoughts?
this post isn't complete because i have a lot of thoughts to sort through.
where are you at in terms of living real life or looking at other's lives?